So as I am typing this I am realizing that it’s been a REALLY long time since I’ve written anything. A lot has changed in my life since the first (or should I say, the last post I made). For starters, we have another kid! Haha.

I never thought that I would be a mom of three. I know that sounds weird but it’s true. You know when you’re little and you have all of these ideas of what you want your life to be when you grow up? To be honest I never really had a dream about my life, so anything that happens is just kind of surprising to me! I never really thought that I would have 3 kids but to be honest (and to not risk sounding too cliche) they really are a blessing.

You know a lot of moms these days are forced to be so many things (literally to be everything) which I’ve been finding is very hard to do! As a mom, not only are you supposed to be there for your kids and give them all of the things that they need, you are to be there for your husband, and clean the house and practice self care (where in the world is all the time?!). And if any other mom is like me, being just a mom or a housewife or whatever you wanna call it is not completely satisfying. And I don’t mean that to sound like I don’t enjoy being a mom it’s just I’ve always been the working type. When I say that, I think I mean that I have always been self sufficient and now having 3 little ones depend on me for everything is difficult! I’ve always been goal oriented in my personal success and as a mom, that has to go on the side burner…it can still be cooking, just not as fast as what it was before kids. And to stay on the food metaphor, maybe it’s even cooking in a way you have never thought of before (like brownies in a cup in the microwave rather than the 30 min long version in the oven) and I know you moms know what I’m talking about! And I believe every mom will agree with me at some degree that being at home inside with your kids all day is HARD. So doing something outside the home, whether that be work or social or whatever your forte is…I believe it’s absolutely necessary. I think as moms we can all support each other with our life goals and attributions and aspirations rather than beat ourselves up for not being the perfect Instagram mom (cause I’ll admit I’ve done that many times).

You know I find it funny this last weekend I was holding an open house for a friend and as I walked into the house the owners were there and greeted me and we had a brief conversation about them and their home and as they were leaving they said “I hope you have a good book”. I think it’s funny because I thought about that and I honestly can’t even tell you the last time I actually picked up a book to read just for fun. Being a mom of 3 kids, I hardly even have time to shower everyday let alone be able to read a book! As I was sitting in this house for three hours, people came by and saw the house and I did have brief conversations with them but in the moments that I was sitting on the couch, with absolutely nothing to do, I realized that even in those three hours of alone time, I missed my kids. I was working, yes, but I constantly was thinking about what I could do to better myself or better some situation for us in our family. I find it funny how every minute of every day as a mom your brain is always going it’s not like a job that you can go to from 9 to 5, put in your hours and walk away and leave. You can’t unless you’re physically away from your family! And even then you’re thinking about something else!

There is not time that you can step away as your role of being a mom and I feel like society these days says that we need to do that to be able to pursue our dreams as “powerful women” in a working society. But guess what, as women, we were created with the amazing ability to multitask, to compartmentalize and keep work at work and home at home, but why do we have to pretend that we aren’t moms to do that?!

When talking to to new moms, or moms that have kids that are just entering certain stages trying to figure out the kid that they have and their new normal, we need to keep in mind that EVERY mom, EVERY day is dealing with that situation for the first time and I think if you have that mindset for every mom you meet, it allows us to be able to connect as moms no matter what. Because as moms, no matter what we believe, no matter what jobs we’ve had, no matter what life situation we’re in, we all connect because we are moms. We’ve brought life into this world and raised that life in this world. It’s difficult. It’s hard. It’s frustrating. It’s rewarding. It’s challenging. But in the end we’re all Moms! And our role for those kids will never stop until we’re gone and then after that its memories of what mom did for us. So don’t beat yourselves up about not being perfect. Don’t beat yourself up about not doing something. Just keep in mind that every day you have with your kids is a blessing and every day you have with them is a chance to mold them, to be with them, and make memories that they could potentially have for a lifetime.

Now, that’s not meaning to put any pressure on you, it is more of a reminder to myself that being a working mom means that you can be with your kids AND work AND not feel like you need to seperate the two. It doesn’t mean you are not as good of a mom as those moms who don’t work. You are their mom and that’s all that matters. Enjoy this time because it won’t last long!

You got this, mama!

Xoxo,